Classes, Workshops, Seminars and Reading Resources
Welcome
to our extensive listing of educational and training programs.
Family & Children's Services takes a leadership role
in organizing and sponsoring classes and workshops that
address issues that influence our lives each day. Making
families stronger is what we do best.
Classes
(No pre-registration is required for parenting classes.
Parents may begin at any time during the series.)
Positive Parenting
Baby Talk
Pre-School Parenting
Developing Capable People
Workshops
(Pre-registration is required for all workshops. Call 587-9471
to register or for more information.)
Stress Management and Relaxation Training
Within Our Reach
Just for Dads
Stand Up for Your Life: Assertiveness & Self Esteem
Divorce Support Workshop
Parenting Your Special Needs Child
Anger Management Education Group
Two Homes, Two Parents; When Parents Live Apart
Living with ADD/ADHD: How to Successfully Parent Your Child
Blending Families: Step by Step
PREP
Surviving High Conflict
Helping Children Cope With Divorce
Reading Resources
Family & Children's Services now offers a variety of
books for parents and children on subjects ranging from
positive parenting to divorce adjustment to rebuilding relationships.
Books are available for purchase at the Central Office,
650 S. Peoria, throughout the week. Books are also for sale
during the Helping Children Cope With Divorce seminars in
Tulsa, Bartlesville, Broken Arrow and Claremore. VISA, MasterCard,
American Express, and Discover accepted.
Click here for a complete list of
titles and prices.
Positive Parenting
All parents try to do their best - but the best of intentions don’t always produce the desired result.
A six-week parent skills development class. You may begin at any time during the series.
A guide for parents of children ages 6-11, to help children develop self-discipline,
responsibility, cooperation and problem-solving skills.
Mondays from 6:00 to 7:30 p.m.
$15 per session, $5 each additional adult family member. Book purchase required. $15
Tulsa - Central Office, 650 S. Peoria
Claremore - Claremore Office, 1820 N. Sioux beginning November 5, 2007.
| 5/19/2008 | | Recognize, Reconcile & Resolve |
| 5/26/2008 | | No Class * Memorial Day * No Class |
| 6/2/2008 | | Communication |
| 6/9/2008 | | Winning Cooperation |
| 6/16/2008 | | Parenting Styles 1st class in the series |
| 6/23/2008 | | Goals of Behavior |
| 6/30/2008 | | Problems & Solutions |
| 7/7/2008 | | Recognize, Reconcile & Resolve |
| 7/14/2008 | | Communication |
| 7/21/2008 | | Winning Cooperation |
| 7/28/2008 | | Parenting Styles 1st class in the series |
Scholarship funding is available.
For more information, contact Family Life Education Programs at 560-1112.
Baby Talk
A six-week (one and a half hour a week) parent skills training class. Parents of infants and toddlers from birth to age 2 1/2 learn the building blocks for strong family foundations. Fundamental parenting skills are taught. Parents may begin at any time during the series.
Tuesdays from 6:00-7:30 p.m
$15 per session, $5 each additional adult family member. Book purchase required $20
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria Ave. Please use West entrance.
| 5/20/2008 | | Building Your Life as a Family |
| 5/27/2008 | | Getting to Know Your Baby 1st class in the series |
| 6/3/2008 | | Daily Living |
| 6/10/2008 | | Steps to Positive Discipline |
| 6/17/2008 | | Health & Wellness |
| 6/24/2008 | | Balancing Needs of Parents & Children |
| 7/1/2008 | | Building Your Life as a Family |
Call 560-1112 for more information.
Pre-School Parenting
A six-week (one and a half hour a week) parent skills development class. The pre-schooler, age 2 1/2 to 5, presents many new challenges for parents. The focus is on important parental tasks for this age including providing attention, security and encouraging development in all areas.
Mondays from 6:00 to 7:30 p.m.
$15 per session, $5 each additional adult family member. Book purchase required. $15
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria
| 5/19/2008 | | Teaching New Behaviors |
| 5/26/2008 | | No Class * Memorial Day * No Class |
| 6/2/2008 | | Decreasing Inappropriate Behaviors |
| 6/9/2008 | | Before You Begin 1st class in the series |
| 6/16/2008 | | Steps in Problem Solving |
| 6/23/2008 | | Avoiding Problems |
| 6/30/2008 | | Increasing Appropriate Behaviors |
| 7/7/2008 | | Teaching New Behaviors |
| 7/14/2008 | | Decreasing Inappropriate Behaviors |
Scholarship funding is available.
For more information, contact Family Life Education Programs at 560-1112.
Developing Capable People
An eight-week (one and a half hour a week) parent skills development class. Parents of middle and high school age children ages 12 to 18 will learn how to bring out the best in their children and improve their relationships.
Tuesdays from 6:00-7:30 p.m.
$15 per session, $5 each additional adult family member
Book purchase required. $15
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria Ave. Please use West entrance.
| 5/20/2008 | | Helping People See Themselves as Having Influence |
| 5/27/2008 | | Developing Self Discipline (Intrapersonal Skills) |
| 6/3/2008 | | Developing Interpersonal Skills |
| 6/10/2008 | | Developing Responsibility (Systemic Skills) |
| 6/17/2008 | | Developing Judgment |
| 6/24/2008 | | Working With Perceptions 1st class in the series |
| 7/1/2008 | | Helping People See Themselves as Capable |
| 7/8/2008 | | Helping People See Themselves as Significant |
| 7/15/2008 | | Helping People See Themselves as Having Influence |
| 7/22/2008 | | Developing Self Discipline (Intrapersonal Skills) |
| 7/29/2008 | | Developing Interpersonal Skills |
| 8/5/2008 | | Developing Responsibility (Systemic Skills) |
| 8/12/2008 | | Developing Judgment |
Scholarship funding is available.
For more information, call 560-1112.
Stress Management and Relaxation Training
During this fun and informative four-week series you will learn how stress affects the mind and the body along with effective coping and relaxation skills. This course will help you overcome stress in your life, so you can be more
relaxed and lead a more productive life with happier relationships.
Immediate stress reduction
techniques will be offered
in each session.
Dates to be announced
6-7:30 p.m.
Workshop fee: $75 per
person/$100 for two
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria Avenue. Please use West entrance.
Scholarship funding is available.
Call 560-1112 to pre-register or for more information.
Click here to register and pay for this class securely online.
Within Our Reach
This fun, educational workshop is designed specifically for parents of children 0-8. It is intended to help you build on existing strengths and teaches important skills to create safe and stable relationships and a better environment for your children. Based on the PREP curriculum.
Wednesdays from 6:00 p.m. -8:00 p.m. Next series begins April 23, 2008.
There is no cost to attend, but reservations are required as space is limited to 30 participants.
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria Avenue. Please use West entrance.
For more information or to pre-register, call 560-1377.
Just for Dads
One of the best advantages any child can have is an involved, responsible and committed father. Fathers provide a priceless contribution to the lives of children everywhere. A father's relationship with his children nurtures physical, emotional, intellectual, social, and spiritual development. Our 6-week fatherhood groups are designed to teach skills necessary to become more successful in life relationships and help fathers be the best they can be for their families.
Next series begins Monday April 14, 2008
6:00-8:00 p.m.
$90 per person
$10 workbook
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria Ave.
Scholarship funding is available.
Call 560-1112 to pre-register or for more information.
Click here to register and pay for this class securely online.
Stand Up for Your Life: Assertiveness & Self Esteem
Low self esteem can keep
people from enjoying life and working toward personal
goals. In this four-week workshop learn how to get the most from your life, how to focus your energy on
your life goals and how to calmly, firmly and effectively
speak for yourself.
Mondays May 5, 12, 19 & June 2, 2008
6:00-7:30 p.m.
$75 per person/$100 for two
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria
Scholarship funding is available.
Call 560-1112 for more information or to pre-register.
Click here to register and pay for this class securely online.
Divorce Support Workshop
Healing and rebuilding can be difficult following a separation or divorce. No one should have to face this stressful life transition alone.
Join Family & Childrens' Services free on-going divorce support group and discover a network that will help you focus on letting go of the past and moving on to a positive future. This program is suitable for people in the process of divorce or recently divorced.
First Thursday of each month. 6:00-7:30 P.M.
There is no cost to attend but pre-registration is required. The
Rebuilding workbook and the book, Rebuilding, both by Dr. Bruce Fisher, are available at an additional cost of $30.00
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria
Call 560-1112 for more information or to pre-register.
Click here to register and pay for this class securely online.
Parenting Your Special Needs Child
When parents learn that their child has a disability or a chronic illness, they begin an unplanned journey that takes them into a life that is often filled with emotion, difficult choices, interactions with professionals and specialists and an ongoing need for information and services.
Tuesdays April 1, 8, 15 & 22, 2008
6:00-7:30 p.m.
$75 per person or $100 for two
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria
Scholarship funding is available.
For more information or to pre-register, call 560-1112.
Click here to register and pay for this class securely online.
Anger Management Education Group
Anger is a completely normal human emotion — but when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems — problems in the workplace, in personal relationships and in an
individual’s quality of life.
It’s not always possible to get rid of, or avoid things and people that cause anger, but learning how to control reactions is possible.
The group is meant to help
people understand and manage anger.
Family & Children's Services offers a 12-week evening group for adults 18 and up.
Tuesdays from 5:00-6:30 & 6:30-8:00 pm
Wednesdays from 5:00-6:30
$20 per session; additional adult family members residing in the same household may attend for a $10 fee. Workbook purchase required $15. Pre-registration is required.
Central Office, 650 S.
Peoria Ave. Also offered at the Claremore Office, 1820 N. Sioux beginning November 6, 2007
For more information or to pre-register, call 560-1112.
Two Homes, Two Parents; When Parents Live Apart
In this four-week program, parents will learn strategies for cooperative parenting, communication skills, conflict resolution and how to create a safe and supportive environment in two homes.
Tuesdays May 6, 13, 20 & 27
6:00-7:30 p.m.
$75 per person or $100 for two. Pre-registration and pre-payment are required.
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria Avenue.
Scholarship funding is available.
For more information or to pre-register, call 560-1112.
Click here to register and pay for this class securely online.
Living with ADD/ADHD: How to Successfully Parent Your Child
Parents sometimes struggle with difficult behaviors at home and at school. Developing skills of behavior management, good communication and anger management will empower parents to find solutions and strategies and provide a solid framework and structure on which to base parenting practices.
The objective of this six-week program is to substantially improve the quality of family life by strengthening children and parents to meet the challenges of the future with confidence.
Tuesdays June 3, 10, 17, 24 & July 1 & 8, 2008.
Workshop Fee: $100 per person/$150 for two
Pre-registration and
pre-payment are required.
Tulsa - Central Office, 650 S. Peoria Avenue.
Claremore - Claremore Office, 1820 N. Sioux.
Scholarship funding is available.
For more information or to pre-register, call 560-1112.
Click here to register and pay for this class securely online.
Blending Families: Step by Step
This four-week course will focus on the challenge of combining parenting principles as you adjust to a new relationship. Learn a parenting approach that will benefit you and your children. Explore issues including child and self-discipline, boundary setting, step-sibling relationships, and dealing with stepchildren.
Mondays April 7, 14, 21 & 28, 2008
6:00-7:30 p.m.
$75 per person or $100 for two participants. Pre-registration and pre-payment are required.
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria Avenue. Please use West entrance.
Scholarship funding is available.
For more information or to pre-register, call 560-1112.
Click here to register and pay for this class securely online.
PREP
This is a research-based approach to teaching couples how to communicate effectively. In this six-week program, participants will learn how to work as a team to solve problems, manage conflicts without damaging closeness, and preserve and enhance love, commitment and friendship.
Wednesdays from 6:00 p.m. -8:00 p.m. A new series will begin April 23, 2008
There is no cost to attend, but reservations are required as space is limited to 30 participants.
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria Avenue. Please use West entrance.
Call 918-560-1112 for more information.
Surviving High Conflict
It's difficult to rebuild lives after divorce or separation. For some, the conflict continues long after the order is final. F&CS offers a workshop that can help reduce the levels of conflict and stress experienced during and after the legal process. The class will teach conflict resolution, communication skills, rebuilding after divorce, replacing old patterns, how to increase assertiveness, how to decrease aggression, techniques for interacting and coping with a difficult co-parent.
The workshop is offered every the first and third Thursday of each month. 11:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. Registration begins at 10:30 a.m.
Parties may not attend together and late arrivals are not admitted.
$20 per person
Central Office, 650 S. Peoria
For more information call 918-596-8741.
Helping Children Cope With Divorce
The effects of divorce on children can be negative and potentially
long term. Children must master an additional set of tasks,
as well as those presented by typical childhood development.
"Helping Children Cope With Divorce" educates parents
and family members as to ways they can help their children
adjust and handle these additional tasks. It is the disruption
of parenting practices that hurts children far more than the
divorce itself. This four-hour seminar creates an opportunity
for parents to shift their focus from the personal aspects
of the divorce to the needs of their children.
"Helping
Children Cope With Divorce" is a court-mandated program
for parents involved in any lawsuit regarding the custody,
visitation or paternity of a minor child. This mandate applies
to nine counties - Tulsa, Wagoner, Rogers, Mayes, Osage,
Pawnee, Washington, Craig and Nowata. Judges in other counties
may also require parents to attend.
Registration
Information
Book List
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk
by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish $15.00
This is an excellent communication tool based on a series of
workshops developed by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish to provide a
step-by-step approach to improving relationships in your
house. The "reminder" pages, helpful illustrations and excellent
exercises will improve your ability as a parent to talk and
problem-solve with your children. The book can be used alone or in
parenting groups, and the solid tools provided are appropriate for kids
of all ages.
The Kissing Hand by Audrey
Penn $18.00
This is a sweet and endearing story helpful for those scary
feelings that come during times of separation. Suitable for any
youngster who is temporarily separated from home or loved ones. It can
also be used to help a child work through the issues of loss through
divorce or death of a parent or special loved one and for children
placed in foster care and residential facilities.
Kids Are Worth It by Barbara
Coloroso $12.00
This bestselling guide rejects "quick-fix" solutions and
focuses on helping kids develop their own self-discipline by owning up
to their mistakes, thinking through solutions, and correcting their
misdeeds while leaving their dignity intact. Barbara Coloroso shows
these principles in action through dozens of examples -- from sibling
rivalry to teenage rebellion; from common misbehaviors to substance
abuse and antisocial behavior. She also explains how to parent
strong-willed children, effective alternatives to time-outs, bribes,
and threats, and how to help kids resolve disputes and serious
injustices such as bullying.
It’s Not Your Fault KoKo Bear
by Vicki Lansky $15.00
Vicki Lansky provides a comforting way of going through an inevitably
painful process while gently showing children that they didn't cause
the breakup. Children find a friend in KoKo Bear, who learns as they do
that they are loved and cared for, even if their parents are divorced.
A read-together book for children and parents. Comes with
KoKo Bear, a 7” adorable, soft, unisex
bear. KoKo can be a special little friend when a child needs
comforting. Made of child-safe materials, KoKo is dressed in overalls
and carries a “bear-pack” which contains this
powerful message: Draw pictures of what worries you or scares you. Or
write these thoughts here. Fold the paper up and put it in my
backpack. I can carry your worries for you. It can feel very
heavy when you keep these thoughts all to yourself. P.S. You
can also whisper them in my ear. KoKo
Bear Doll $ 8.00
Dinosaurs Divorce by
Laurie Krasny Brown & Marc Brown $9.00
This great learning tool includes these topics: Divorce words
and what they mean, why parents divorce, what about me, after the
divorce, living with one parent, visiting the other parent
and having two homes. It lets the child know that it is not
their fault for the parents' divorce. The book reassures the child that
parents divorce when they are no longer able to get along no matter how
hard they try. Dinosaurs Divorce discusses feelings
that a child may not be used to experiencing such as sadness, shame,
anger, guilt, and/or worrying about who will take care of them. The
book instructs the child to talk about how they feel so they may feel
better. Dinosaurs Divorce lets them know that it is
okay to let their feelings out through tears.
Rebuilding by Bruce
Fisher $15.00
Written for those going through divorce or rebuilding their
lives after divorce. Inspired by the work of renowned divorce
therapist, Dr. Bruce Fisher, the Rebuilding Books offer expert
information and practical self-help procedures. These straightforward,
life-affirming resources can help make the divorce process easier,
healthier, and less painful, leading to more-fulfilled lives and
stronger "second-time" relationships. The newly revised and updated
third edition offers just the right balance of shoulder-to-cry-on and
kick-in-the-pants to help you get through the confusing and
often-painful process.
The Challenging Child
by Stanley Greenspan $16.00
The Challenging Child offers calm, reassuring advice to
parents. Stanley I. Greenspan is a practicing child psychiatrist and
helps parents dealing with all types of difficult children. He reveals
the parenting patterns to avoid and helps adults tailor their approach
to a child's particular needs. This book describes the unique, in-born
personality and behavior traits which our children have, making some of
them more challenging to deal with. With more understanding of their
make-up and some specific strategies to try as parents and teachers,
adults can feel more in control of the situation and children's unique
needs can be met more readily.
Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce the
Sandcastles Way by Gary Neuman $18.00
Helping Your Kids Cope is designed to increase communication,
understanding, and togetherness between parents and kids. The book is
also packed full of suggestions on everything from the best way to
break the divorce news to a child (it differs according to age group)
to facing the holidays, visitation, custody arrangements, anger,
discipline, co-parenting, single parenting, overcompensation, sorrow,
custody fights, and much more.
Positive Discipline from A-Z by
Jane Nelsen $16.00
This book suggests that children misbehave when they feel
thwarted in their need to belong and in their need for love and
attention. Nelsen provides remedies that work better than punishment
and lead to mutual respect. Nelson's sensible, loving approach can be
adapted easily at any stage of the game. Parents are taught to keep
discipline reasonable, rational, related to the "crime" and respectful.
Imposing discipline until self-discipline is learned creates a teamwork
of mutual respect even when circumstances require correction.
Mom’s House, Dad’s
House by Isolina Ricci $15.00
According to the Stepfamily Association of America, 60
percent of all families are breaking up, and custody and visitation
issues loom large in the lives of many parents. Isolina Ricci's Mom's
House, Dad's House guides separated, divorced, and remarried parents
through the hassles and confusions of setting up a strong, working
relationship with the ex-spouse in order to make two loving homes for
the kids.
Positive Discipline for Single Parents
by Jane Nelsen $16.00
Nelson's parenting recommendations incorporate understanding
misbehavior, encouragement, praise, trust, and respect for children;
the use of firm, wise limits; and allowing and providing for natural
and logical consequences for misbehavior; clear communication
techniques and child-positive approaches to problem solving.
Inside this reassuring book, readers will learn how to identify
potential problems and develop skills to prevent them, budget time each
week for family activities and create a respectful coparenting
relationship with your former spouse.
Parenting Teens With Love & Logic:
Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood
by Foster Cline, M.D. & Jim Fay $16.00
Parents will face no greater challenge than guiding their
children through their teen years toward adulthood. As they
struggle toward independence, issues for parent and teen alike
emerge. Readers will learn healthy and effective ways to
guide teens without resorting to anger, threats and power struggles.
Raising Self Reliant Children in a Self
Indulgent World by Stephen Glenn and Jane
Nelsen $16.00
Authors H. Stephen Glenn and Jane Nelsen have helped hundreds
of thousands of parents raise capable, independent children with
Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World. On
its tenth anniversary, this parenting classic returns with fresh,
up-to-date information to offer you inspiring and workable ideas for
developing a trusting relationship with children, as well as the skills
to implement the necessary discipline to help your child become a
responsible adult.
The Family Book by Todd
Parr $18.00
Some families include step-moms, step-dads, step-sisters, or
step-brothers; some adopt children. Other families have two moms or two
dads, while some children have only one parent. Interspersed with the
differences among families are the ways they are alike: all like to hug
each other, are sad when they lose someone they love, enjoy celebrating
special days together, and can help each other to be strong. This
concept book, celebrating the diversity of family groups, is
distinguished by its sense of fun. Parents can use this book
to encourage children to talk about their families and the different
kinds of families that exist.
Transforming the Difficult Child by Howard
Glasser, Jennifer
Easley $22.00
brings to life a new way of shifting intense children to a
solid life of success. The Nurtured Heart Approach puts a refreshing
spin on both parenting and teaching and reveals new techniques and
strategies that create thoroughly positive
behaviors.
Raising Confident Boys by
Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer $12.00
This book provides 100 practical, effective tips for readers
who want to help the boys in their lives. Parents and teachers will
learn how to take advantage of the opportunity in everyday situations
to bolster a boy's self-image. Each chapter is centered
around a particular subject. The chapters begin with a
concise overview of the subject area and its importance, then specific
examples and tips follow for how to deal with that subject, with bullet
list recommendations for parents and for teachers. The subjects are
those of the utmost importance with respect to boys, how they view
themselves, and how their self-image shapes who they become.
Raising Confident Girls by
Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer $12.00
Raising Confident Girls provides parents
and teachers with the best hands-on, practical advice available for
nurturing girls in a changing and challenging social environment. The
positive focus emphasizes the ways that parents and teachers
specifically can boost girls' self-esteem. Each chapter is centered on
a particular subject. The chapters begin with a concise
overview of the subject area and its importance, then specific examples
and tips follow for how to deal with that subject, with bullet list
recommendations for parents and for teachers. The subjects are those of
the utmost importance with respect to girls, how they view themselves,
and how their self-image shapes who they become.
The Way I Feel by Janan
Caine $16.00
This book was also created to encourage children to recognize
their emotions. In the back of the book there is a note to parents
explaining how the book can be used to help children understand what
circumstances make them feel happy, sad, jealous or angry. Through
simple verses and engaging illustrations, The Way I Feel
gives children the vocabulary they need to understand and express how
they feel. Strong, expressive illustrations and easy to read
text make this an accessible book for children and offers them real
words for their feelings.
I Don’t Want To Talk About It by
Jeanie Franz Ransom $14.00
When a child's parents tell her they have decided to divorce,
the last thing she wants to do is talk about it. Instead, she wants to
roar as loud as a lion so she can't hear their painful words, or turn
into a fish and hide her tears in the sea, or even become a bird and
fly away. But with her mother and father's help, she starts to consider
what life will be like after divorce and learns that although some
things will change, many other things will remain the same. Most
importantly, she realizes that although her parents may not agree about
much, one thing they do agree on is that they both love her very much
and will always be her mom and dad.
We're Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say
About Their Parents' Divorce by Constance
Ahrons $14.00
In 1979, sociologist Ahrons randomly selected 98 pairs of
divorced parents in Wisconsin for a five-year study. While everyone
handles the divorce process differently, "divorce doesn't destroy
families" even if it rearranges and expands them to embrace new
members. Ahrons reminds parents it's not the quantity of time they
spend with their child, but the quality of relationship they establish:
reliability, consistency and genuine interest in their lives are what
matter most to children. More prescriptive than descriptive, this
supportive guidebook should aid anyone trying to make a "good divorce"
better.
Oklahoma Marriage
Initiative Relationship Workshops
It's a fact of life that all couples have problems. The
critical difference is how they handle those problems. Strong
relationships are founded on a blend of realism, romance
and hard work. No matter how you define your partner - soul
mate, co-parent, best friend - it takes two to make a relationship
strong.
Family & Children's Services, in conjunction with the Oklahoma
Marriage Initiative (OMI), will offer ongoing PREP (Prevention
Relationship Enhancement Program) series beginning April 5, 2005. The sessions will be
from 6-8 p.m. There is no cost to attend, but reservations
are required as space is limited to 30 participants. Participants
may begin at any time during the series. The programs are
held at the Central Office of Family & Children's Services,
located at 650 S. Peoria.
Those interested in attending can register online at www.okmarriage.org
or call OMI toll free at 877-435-8033 or they may call the
F&CS Education Department at 587-9471.
The program is suitable for anyone who wants to establish
and maintain and enhance a couples relationship and is also
appropriate for individuals who want more information about
characteristics of healthy relationships.
